Trust and Love with Joy

In "Science of Enlightenment", Shinzen Young shares that "Pain x Resistance = Suffering."  When we experience pain or shadow, our ego mind tries to resist it. That is why most of us remain unconscious of all the shadows that are blocking us from living an abundant life.

Shinzen Young also shares that "Pain x Equanimity = Purification." Equanimity is the radical acceptance of what is. When we accept and release by simply inhaling and exhaling, when we offer ourselves compassion, we integrate our light and darkness into Oneness. In Oneness is where we are connected to the source, our authentic power and purpose. (Pg. 6 of "Honoring Darkness: Embrace Shadow Work to Nourish and Grow Your Power.")

In each class, we will dive into one Shadow. Sharing your shadow is really important. As Brene Brown says, "Shame cannot survive empathy." Whatever your shadow is, when it is shared, you will experience compassionate transformation. (If you cannot attend LIVE, we highly recommend you email your letter to the facilitator before class so that your sacred process can be witnessed by the whole.)  You can find an example of the exercise on Pg. 28 of the book. 

You get what you put in. The more time you spend writing letters to yourself, journaling your greatest grief, anger, denial, fear, unworthiness, conflicts, scarcity survival mindset, taking everything for granted, manipulation and shame - the more you can transform. 

Specifically, each week may include practices at the soul, heart, mind, energy and body level:

Soul = Dr. and Master Sha's Tao Calligraphy healing (karma cleansing)

Heart = Dr. Raven Lee's Radiant Heart meditation

Mind = Mindset shift (deleting limiting conversations)

Energy and Body = Qi gong, yoga, singing, dancing

Each session, Winnie may invite a magical being to co-facilitate the session. The goal is for everyone to be receptive, fun and committed on the journey to self mastery. We need each other for love, support and guidance.

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We will examine the shadow of love: heart walls, grief, rejection, isolation, and loneliness. We will also do a Kundalini yoga Kriya (reserve energy set) and receive a Tao blessing of Da Ai which means the Greatest Love to integrate the light and shadow of love.  

It is part of the human experience to feel loss. Loss can be in the form of heartbreak, saying goodbye, a loved one passing, homesickness, leaving a career, or graduating. Sometimes it feels like you are in perpetual grief, leading to us unconsciously building heart walls to prevent being ever hurt again. Grief is love that has nowhere to go. It’s that deep heart wrenching longing of missing that person, place, identity, idea, or thing. This longing can be so hard which creates a cycle of isolation and loneliness. Have you ever wondered, “Why does nobody love or care for me?” What if there was love but you closed yourself off to receiving it?

We will examine the shadow of forgiveness: anger, holding grudges, hate, and resentment. We will also receive a Tao blessing of Da Kuan Shu which means the Greatest Forgiveness to integrate the light and shadow of forgiveness.

Anger is necessary as it protects us. When our life is threatened, anger helps us get big and loud. However, anger can quickly arise when your ego is bruised, or your pride is threatened. Dwelling in anger leads to holding grudges and hate, not only with others but most importantly, ourselves. How much resentment you have towards others is directly correlated to how much hatred you spew on yourself. 

We will examine the shadow of compassion: suppressing our expression, not listening, understanding, and accepting of self and others. We will also receive a Tao blessing of Da Ci Bei which means the Greatest Compassion to integrate the light and shadow of compassion. 

How much fighting are you doing with yourself? If you are having constant conversations where you invalidate yourself or deny your feelings, you are in a state of suffering. If you aren’t listening or understanding of yourself, how much actual listening or understanding are you doing of others? Compassion is the key to connection.

We will examine the shadow of light: fear and doubts. We will also do the Kriya for state of mind and overcoming paranoia and receive a Tao blessing of Da Guang Ming which means the Greatest Light to integrate the light and shadow.

Fear and doubt is a normal part of living life, but if you are living in constant fear or doubt that is crippling, how present are you with the dance of life? Trust is the antidote to fear. Trust is having a confident relationship with the unknown. If you are in fear of what will happen tomorrow or how others will perceive you, you are missing this current moment. You are missing your breath in and out, you are missing the here and now, you are missing living your life. 

We will examine the shadow of humility: unworthiness, ego, arrogance, judgment, competition, and comparison. We will also do the Kriya for Liver, Stomach, and Colon and receive a Tao blessing of Da Qian Bei which means the Greatest Humility to integrate the light and shadow of humility.

How often do you put people on pedestals and when they eventually disappoint you, you devalue them? Or how often are you doing it to yourself, one day thinking you are the best thing since sliced bread and the next thinking you are useless and unworthy of love? This cycle of arrogance, judgment, and unworthiness is the attachment to the ego. Ego is necessary but not the boss, yet many of us walk around with our ego being the end all be all while overvaluing or undervaluing situations, people, jobs, and places. Humility is the embodiment of knowing that we are not better or worse than anyone. 

We will examine the shadow of harmony: cycle of conflict creating and drama seeking. We will also receive a Tao blessing of Xiang Ai Ping An He Xie which means Love, Peace, and Harmony to integrate the light and shadow of harmony.

Conflict is necessary for growth and intimacy with oneself and in relationship with others. Conflict naturally arises, but when you add more conflict and drama due to unhealed wounds, you are adding gasoline to a brush fire. Why are you making it harder for yourself by lashing out at yourself and others, when you can move through conflict and arrive at peace? 

We will examine the shadow of flourishing: lack and scarcity mindset. We will also receive a Tao blessing of Tao Ye Chang Sheng which means Tao Business Flourishing to integrate the light and shadow of flourishing.

Most of us grew up with scarcity survival mindset from our parents. We may think that we are powerless victims and the world is out to get us. The idea that resources are finite may cause us to fend for ourselves and enter power struggles. The idea that love is finite may cause us to get jealous or needy. Luckily we create our own reality. Everyone is abundant in something. Give what we want to receive. When we give love and money, we receive love and money. Do you know there is a way through every block, if we open our hearts to asking for help?

We will examine the shadow of gratitude: entitlement and taking others, ourselves, and everything for granted. We will also receive a Tao blessing of Dao Sheng De Yang, which means the Tao gives birth to infinite virtues to nourish us. 

Everyone is gifted and everything is happening for us. When our heart is closed, we resist what the infinite love, support and protection that the universe has for us. When our heart is open, we accept the perfection of what is in the present. We turn traumas into blessings. When we repeatedly turn all the lemons in our lives into lemonade, we begin to appreciate that everything happens to help us unlock our gifts. The more we appreciate our gifts, the more we can appreciate others' gifts.

We will examine the shadow of service: manipulation and taking advantage of others. We will also receive a Tao Blessing of "Mu Bu Wang Shi, Er Bu Wang Ting, Kou Bu Wang Yan, Nao Bu Wang Xiang", which means "See no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil, think no evil."

When we are in our fear based ego, we see everything as separate from us. We think we know what's best for us, and we do everything in our "human power" to manipulate situations to our favor. Sometimes we get clouded by greed, hatred and delusion. When we open our hearts, we realize we are all One. When we truly understand that we are connected, we begin to seek win-win situations. We believe in the noble cause. We are able to make sacrifices and serve a cause greater than our ego.

We will examine the shadow of service: manipulation and taking advantage of others. We will also receive a Tao Blessing of "Mu Bu Wang Shi, Er Bu Wang Ting, Kou Bu Wang Yan, Nao Bu Wang Xiang", which means "See no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil, think no evil."

When we are in our fear based ego, we see everything as separate from us. We think we know what's best for us, and we do everything in our "human power" to manipulate situations to our favor. Sometimes we get clouded by greed, hatred and delusion. When we open our hearts, we realize we are all One. When we truly understand that we are connected, we begin to seek win-win situations. We believe in the noble cause. We are able to make sacrifices and serve a cause greater than our ego.

We will examine the shadow of enlightenment: shame, not knowing and avoiding our Divinity, resistant to the Source/Universe plan.

In this lesson, we learn the method of giving awareness and compassion to all of our shadows as lessons that are turning up to further our healing. Raven Lee, founder of the Integrated Shakti Reiki lineage and author of Unbinding the Soul teaches us the ABDCE method and leads us in her Radiant Heart meditation. Winnie concludes by offering us a blessing to help us see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil, and most significantly think no evil.